I started habit building in October, this is what they look like now

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I created new resolutions to turn my goals into habits in October this year. By focusing on building small, consistent habits, I wanted to be able to make lasting changes and achieve my long-term dreams. Here are a few of the things I am building at the moment:

  1. Health
  2. Relationships
  3. Strategic thinking
  4. Work Ethic & Obsession
  5. Focus
  6. Chess Elo

For the last three months, I have been working with a coach and (almost) each day; I have slept 7+ hours, tracked my weight and eating and hit 200g+ of protein, walked 10k+ steps, drank 4 litres of water, got outside in nature, done 20-30 mins on the turbo, breathwork, and lift weights four times per week. 

I am being more deliberate with who I spend time, finding people who make extreme goals feel normal—relentless humans climbing mountains and playing long-term games. I seek to cultivate deeper connections with a small number of people. 

I have begun planning in years and decades, reading the books of great thinkers, thinking big thoughts and planning big plans, spending time analysing situations, and working on my future self and identity.

I am working harder, taking ownership and accountability. I only finish when the job is done, delivering more than is required, and going narrow and deeper. I hold myself and the people around me to a higher standard, not letting things go and not apologising or hiding my obsessions or work ethic.

I spend time in silence, reduce distractions and try to live in the moment, paying attention and enjoying the small things. I seek the flow state each day where I produce meaningful creative output, carving out time for deep focused work.

I have joined the endless battle within the 64 squares.


Success in whatever way you define it takes time. Along with a commitment to your big goals, you also need patience. Developing expertise in your career or a sport will take many years of hard work and deliberate practice. You need to make a rough long-term plan based on how others have achieved your goal and a detailed short-term plan for getting to the next step.

Patience. the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious.

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It can be challenging to focus on what you need to do now to lay the foundations for where you need to be in a year or two. Many people choose to jump ahead when they get impatient or bored with the current rate of progress. Skipping steps may include looking for short cuts or hacks that are sold as reducing the learning curve to a fraction of the time by people who may never have achieved the goal you are after or who are trying to make money from your impatience.

If you want to run a sub-three-hour marathon, you need to start building up to running five or six times per week, then increasing mileage to 40 to 50 miles per week, and then developing the speed and stamina needed to hold 4:16 minutes per kilometre for 26.2 miles. Just building the consistency of running six days per week might take a year or two to let your muscles and ligaments get used to the new stress of the constant pounding.

Building up the skills and experience to be an expert in your career might take even longer than getting to a good performance level in a sport. The digitisation of the workplace means that most career paths require a significant set of multi-disciplinary skills to perform at a high level. Working as a learning designer in HE, for instance, requires you to be an expert in learning theory, multimedia production, and design, each of which is a complex area made up of multiple skill sets.

You especially need patience in the early stages of a career when working in an entry-level post that does not have the variety and rewards that positions higher up the ladder offers. You need the patience to develop the foundational skills in the first rung of the ladder before being effective in the next rungs up. You may be fully committed to your career, but patience is needed to keep the sustained effort over many years as you progress.

Patience is developed daily by focusing on the task at hand and learning to enjoy the journey rather than focusing on the final success you are working towards. You need to be aware of your impatience, constantly focus on the current step, create detailed plans for the next few months, and let the long-term goal look after itself. Cultivate patience in your life will not only get you to your destination more quickly, but it will also make the journey more fun.